Silences is a 25 minute documentary that is both an intimate personal journey as well as an intense family drama by first time director Octavio Warnock-Graham. At its heart, Silences explores that universal question that every child asks and every parent dreads, "Why didn't you give me that thing that I needed?"

Set in Maumee, Ohio, an idyllic Midwestern suburb with manicured lawns and historic homes, Silences follows the filmmaker's journey to understand his mother, Harriet Warnock, and her refusal to discuss the circumstances of his birth. Failing to get satisfactory answers from his mother, he turns to the people that know them the best: the family. For the son, one lingering problem remains, a question that no one in the family has been asked or can answer…

"Harriet never talked about it."- Eric Warnock
"It doesn't really matter."-Clark Warnock
"We always had our suspicions."- Roger Warnock
"Harriet never told me you were black because you're not black."-Grandma Warnock

With a silent mother and no family members with first hand knowledge, Octavio travels to San Francisco with only a name and a phone number to find that one person who can complete his search for answers, his biological father…

Ultimately, Silences is not about race and it is not about blame and it is not about shame. It is about the intricate and challenging problems that every parent faces in raising a child and every child faces in coming to terms with the choices, for better or for worse, that a parent makes.


2006 Emily Koteff